Inspiring Boys, Empowering Fathers, Transforming Lives

Healthy Fathers, Healthy Sons, Health Communities

“The underachievement of boys in the education system is a really serious issue faced by parents, teachers and all of society.”
– Dr. James S. Brown, MA, MEd EdD, Author of Rescuing our Underachieving Sons

 “Boys are falling behind in education, mental health, and a sense of purpose—creating a crisis that affects families, communities, and the future of our society.”
– Dr. Warren Farrel, Author of The Boy Crisis

“In discussing gender differences in education, it’s crucial to consider the interaction of biology, culture, and education systems, recognizing that these differences are not immutable but can change with societal evolution and educational reforms. Moreover, the conversation must be sensitive to the diversity within each gender, acknowledging that individual experiences can significantly vary from these broad trends”.
– Christina Hoff Sommers. Author of The War on Boys

As we look around, it’s clear that boys are facing significant challenges in today’s society—especially in education, mental health, and relationships. Boys are increasingly falling behind in school, and a growing disparity between boys and girls is becoming more evident.

Historically, when girls faced barriers to success, society took proactive steps to level the playing field, helping them thrive. Now, boys are disengaging from education, social connections, and in some cases, even life itself. It’s time to adjust our approach, inspire our boys, and help them unlock their full potential. It’s time for us to shift our focus and create an environment where boys can succeed just as girls do today.

Data from the past decade shows alarming trends with boys: lower literacy scores,  higher school dropout rates, increased depression, disengagement, lower post-secondary attendance, and rising unemployment along with substance abuse among young men. This lack of participation in society can often lead to depression and, tragically, suicide. A healthy society depends on healthy fathers, healthy sons, and healthy communities.

We need to inspire and support our boys today to ensure a better future for everyone. We envision a future where every boy is equipped to succeed academically, emotionally, and socially. By inspiring our boys now, we create a generation of leaders, innovators, and role models who will drive a brighter, more equitable future for all.

Let’s take action today—when our boys succeed, life improves for everyone. 

 

Where do we see these differences in education and society?  

• Lower Academic Performance Boys, on average, are performing worse than girls in school, with lower grades, and lower literacy, reading and writing skills
• Lack of Engagement Boys often show less interest in school and struggle with motivation.
• Boys typically score lower than girls on standardized tests in the language arts. (EQAO)
• Boys are more likely than girls to be placed in special education programs
• Decline in the percentage of boys attending post-secondary school 
• Higher school drop rate Boys are more likely to drop out of school compared to girls
• Inability to enter a trade – often require a high school diploma or college eduction
• Decline in the number of boys entering professions
• Role models for boys are declining
• Boys view schools as places for women teachers to teach girls. Boys are often heard to say, “School is for girls”

Why is this an issue for CCMF?

When boys drop out of the education system, they often face significant long-term consequences across multiple areas of life, including employment, financial stability, health, and social well-being. CCMF helps men manage some of these challenges.  The next step is to help fathers inspire their children, especially boys, so that they too can become high achievers in education, resulting in a better quality of life. Healthy Fathers, Healthy Families, Healthy Communities. 

Why is this an issue for Women?

“When boys lose, women lose. When boys do well, women do well. The good news is that when we focus on the needs of boys, we will all benefit.”

Farrell, Warren. The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It. BenBella Books, 2018

When boys struggle—whether in education, emotional well-being, or social engagement—it directly impacts girls and women as well. This is partly because boys’ underachievement often leads to economic and social instability, which can affect families, relationships, and communities. Women need partners that are financially and emotionally stable in order to have a successful relationship and a healthy, happy homelife for the children.

What can we do about this?

CCMF is committed to helping fathers help their children. This new section of our website will provide monthly information on how fathers can help their sons succeed. We will continue to grow this section with more resources, data, videos and other features. 

We also want to reach out to Fathers so they can share concerns and  ideas. We can work with them to raise awareness and raise their sons to become healthy, educated and successful men.

How does CCMF support fathers?

In this new section of our CCMF website, our focus is on empowering fathers to better support their sons. Here’s how we can help:

• Monthly updates with valuable resources and topics for fathers
• Podcast discussions covering relevant subjects
• Opportunities for fathers provide feedback on podcasts, ask questions, and share their experiences

 

In an upcoming episode we will explore:

My son is struggling with Literacy. Why does it matter?

It is crucial that little boys learn to read, it has an impact on their quality of life and their future. More specifically:

Dr. James S. Brown emphasizes the importance of teaching young boys literacy as it is a foundational skill that affects nearly every aspect of their development and future success. 

Reading is much more than simply decoding words and sentences—it’s about grasping the message the writer wants to convey. For example, a child might be able to sound out the word rune, but if they don’t understand that it’s an ancient symbol often found in fantasy stories like The Hobbit, they could miss an important part of the story. Understanding the meaning of words helps readers imagine the world the author is building.  It’s about understanding what is being expressed in the story.

Reading also  involves skills such as recognizing words, understanding grammar, and processing information presented in written form. 

Literacy is beyond reading.  It refers to the ability to read, write, and communicate effectively in various contexts. Literacy involves understanding and using language—both written and spoken—across different situations. It’s the ability to express ideas clearly (writing), understand complex information, think critically, and use language in meaningful ways.  A common example is a joke. You can tell a joke but if the person doesn’t know the context, they won’t think it’s funny. In the same way, you can read but if you don’t understand the context it’s just a bunch of words.  Literacy is both reading, understanding and applying.

These are critical life skills for personal relationships, professional success and financial stability.

It is crucial to start this process early, right from birth. Have your sons become familiar with stories and  picture books.

Why does Literacy at such an early age matter?

1. Academic Success

• Early reading skills set the stage for overall academic achievement. Boys who struggle with reading early on often fall behind in other subjects, leading to frustration and disengagement from school.

2. Cognitive Development

• Reading helps boys develop critical thinking, problem-solving, and comprehension skills, which are crucial for their intellectual growth and ability to process information effectively.

3. Language & Communication Skills

• Literacy improves vocabulary, grammar, and communication, enabling boys to express themselves clearly and confidently in both verbal and written forms.

4. Emotional & Social Development

• Reading exposes boys to different perspectives, cultures, and emotions, helping them build empathy and social awareness. It also enhances their ability to understand and manage their own emotions.

5. Behavioral & Psychological Benefits

• Boys who develop strong reading skills are less likely to experience frustration in school, which can lead to behavioral issues or disengagement. Literacy can also reduce anxiety by providing a constructive way to process thoughts and emotions.

6. Future Career & Economic Opportunities

• Reading proficiency is directly linked to higher education attainment and better job prospects. Poor literacy skills limit career choices and earning potential.

7. Preventing Dropout & Delinquency

• Boys who struggle with reading are more likely to become disinterested in school, leading to higher dropout rates and an increased risk of delinquency or criminal behavior.

8. Encouraging a Lifelong Love for Learning

• If boys learn to read early and enjoy it, they are more likely to continue learning and exploring new ideas throughout their lives, leading to personal and professional growth.

Where is the data? What do the statistics tell us?

Here are key literacy statistics from various sources:

• Ontario EQAO (2014-2019):
  • Grade 3: Girls outperformed boys by 8-10%  in reading and 11-13% in writing.
  • Grade 6: Girls again outperformed boys by 8-10% points in reading and 13-17% points in writing.
• Ontario Secondary School Literacy Test (OSSLT) 2018-2019:
  • 81% of girls passed, compared to 75% of boys, creating a 6-point gender gap.
  • This test is essential for high school graduation, which is often a requirement for apprenticeships in skilled trades and for entry into post-secondary education—making it a critical step for boys’ future success.
• Pan-Canadian Assessment Program (PCAP 2013):
  • Girls scored 23 points higher than boys in reading, showing a persistent gender gap.
• Progress in International Reading Literacy Study (PIRLS 2016):
  • Girls in Canada had higher reading scores than boys, continuing a long-standing trend.

These statistics highlight a significant literacy gap favoring girls, with implications for boys’ academic and future economic success. This data does not account for the impact of COVID-19 on student performance. It’s time to help boys close the gap and provide equal opportunities for both boys and girls.

High School Drop out rates:

2009/2010, 10.3% of young men aged 20 to 24 had dropped out of high school, while the rate for young women was 6.6%

Nunavut had the highest rate of men dropping out  at 50.0% in 2007/2010.

Post Secondary Statistics:

2021 Enrollment Nationally:

56.3% Women

43.6% Men

University of Alberta Data: In the 2015-2016 academic year, women represented 54.7% of the University of Alberta’s student population, while men accounted for 45.3%.

Post Secondary Graduation Rates:

According to the OECD, 76% of women and 58% of men in Canada aged 25-34 have post secondary qualifications, marking a significant gender gap. Leading lower economic opportunities.

So, what can I do as a Father to help my son?

The biggest, simplest and low cost thing you can do as a father is read to your son and teach him literacy skills. Even just 10 to 15 minutes a day of reading  or one book a night, one chapter a night.  Then talk about it. This shows sons that fathers read books too, setting yourself up as a role model. Too often boys see moms reading to them and their primary school teacher is likely to be a woman, so he does not see men as part of learning and education.

When you are  with your son, take a trip to the library and pick out some books to read together. You can read them at the library and/or take some books home. Focus on books that have boys as heroes and leaders or scientists and problem solvers. That gives them some role models that are boys and they can see the value of boys in the stories.  After a few times, your son can see that he can have more personal time with Dad if he reads stories. Note that it is not likely your son will sit still as boys like to be constantly on the move and interacting with toys and other nearby distractions. That’s ok. Just keep reading and interacting with him about the story while he plays. He is listening!  Most girls will sit still, most boys won’t, but that’s just biology.

It’s not just reading the book.

As part of the reading process, ask him questions:

• Tell the story back to you
• What does he think will happen next?
• Why did the character do what he did?
• What would you do if that were you?
• What is your favourite part of the story and why?

The goal is to engage your son and encourage critical thinking about the story. 

Make it Personal

Another activity for a toddler or really any age, give him a book with his name written inside. It becomes his personal book, something he can carry around like a teddy bear. Encourage him to ask others to read to him or to explore the pictures on his own. The key is to show him the value of books.

Encourage your son to create his own story. After an experience, like going for ice cream or another type of outing, help him write about it. Print it out so he can have his own personalized storybook. He can draw pictures to go with the words.  This process connects reading, writing, and thinking, and allows him to share his story, highlighting the value of his very own book.

As a father, what else can I do?

1. Help your son to imagine possibilities with what he is learning is school – give role models/examples
2. Provides lots of praise and positive feedback as he probably doesn’t get that in school
3. Talk to him about exciting future goals – what do you want to be when you grow up? How do you get there?
4. Help them with homework – be aware of what your son is learning in school!  Ensure it supports positive vision for boys
5. Advocate for your son by engaging actively with his teacher. When the teacher points out his weaknesses, seek out specific examples to understand these observations better. Use this information to work with your son, helping him to address and overcome these challenges. Through your support, demonstrate his growth and resilience, proving that what might have been seen as weaknesses can be transformed or are not weaknesses at all.
6. Praise your son for being a boy and the value that boys/men bring to society. Tell them that in our society, the only way to get there is to stay in school and work hard. Perhaps reward him for working hard.
7. Be a good role model – point out male role models for your son – real people, books, movies that portray boys a strong supportive roles

Summary: 

Become a role model to your son, show him the importance of boys. Provide lots of positive reinforcement.  Take a trip to the book store or library.  Have him write a story about his time with his Dad.  Make Literacy a priority for your son and play a crucial role in making him successful in life. He needs you!

 

What’s next:?

Get ready for something exciting and empowering! We’re launching a series of dynamic initiatives designed to support fathers in every possible way. A monthly podcast packed with powerful ideas and actionable tips on how fathers can help their sons thrive and succeed. But that’s not all! Fathers will have the chance to join the conversation with questions, suggestions, and even share their own experiences. We’ll also be interviewing experts and influential guests who can offer valuable insights and advice.

And that’s just the start! We’re building a thriving community with a blog where fathers can ask questions, share answers, and support each other. Plus, we’re curating a treasure trove of resources, including must-read books for dads and their sons. And as we grow, we’re introducing an online, live support group where fathers can connect, share, and find the encouragement they need. This is your chance to be part of something special—a movement of dads committed to making a lasting difference in their sons’ lives.

Do you have questions or suggestions? 

Feel free to send us questions about helping your son become successful, we will do our best to provide a response.  

Here is our email;

Inspiringboys@menandfamilies.org

Also, if you are a father and have suggestions for other fathers, please add them to the discussion.

Stay Tuned for future topics, discussions and details.

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Suggested books with Boys as Heroes/Leaders by age:

“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.” ― Dr. Seuss

 

Ages 0 to 4 years old:

Where the Wild Things Are by Maurice Sendak

The Gruffalo” by Julia Donaldson, illustrated by Axel Scheffler 

Guess How Much I Love You by Sam McBratney

Curious George series by H.A. Rey

Jack and the Beanstalk

The Very Hungry Caterpillar by Eric Carle

The Little Engine That Could  by Watty Piper

Doctor Suess books –  help boys read by using catchy rhymes, simple vocabulary, and humorous stories that engage their imaginations. The colorful illustrations and repetitive language make reading fun and easier, building confidence and improving phonemic awareness. Themes of adventure and individuality resonate with boys, motivating them to keep reading. 

 

Ages 4 to 8 years old:

The Adventures of Jack and Gizmo 

The Adventures of Jamaal and Gizmo

The Adventures of Jay and Gizmo – By Dr. James S. Brown

Frog and Toad – by Arnold Lobel

Magic Tree House – chapter book series by Mary Pope Osborne 

Several books in the series, usually 6 to 8 or older

Magic School Bus series by Joanna Cole

Ages 8 to 12 years old:

The Wind in the Willows by Kenneth Grahame

The Chronicles of Narnia series by C.S. Lewis

           The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe

This series can be found in versions for different ages

Ages 12 to 15 years old:

Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone/Sorcerer’s Stone by J.K. Rowling

Percy Jackson & The Olympians series by Rick Riordan

The Hobbit by J.R.R. Tolkien

Eragon series by Christopher Paolini

Artemis Fowl series by Eoin Colfer

The Maze Runner by James Dashner

Resources for Fathers to read:

Rescuing our underachieving sons 

by Dr. James S. Brown, MA, MEd, EdD

The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It 

by Warren Farrel

The War on Boys: How misguided policies are harming our young men

by Christina Hoff Sommers

Of Boys and Men – Why the modern male is struggling, why it matters and what to do about it. 

By Richard V. Reeves