By Kiran Thomas, CCMF Volunteer

  • Parents to understand PAS and tale help from experts to break through PAS. Needs to remain calm since a person who reacts in anger is proving the alienator’s point that he or she is unstable.
  •  Continue to be focused and never give up. Continue trying to get the court to understand the seriousness of the issues and to change primary custody to them.
  • Be willing and able to go to the financial expense of seeing it through.
  • Get help from a skilled family lawyer who had experience with parent alienation syndrome. Become good at understanding how the courts work and the law as it applied to their case. In many cases, because of excessive expenses, parents even ended up as pro per (called pro se in some states) where they were representing themselves without a lawyer.
  • Persevere in demonstrating that they are rational, reasonable, and had the best interest of the child at heart.
  • Provided the court with an appropriate parenting plan that showed how the child would be well taken care of in their care.
  • Understand the nature of the problem and focused on what to do about it, even though they and their children were being victimized. Don’t be a victim and be proactive in a constructive way.
  • Keep a diary or journal of key events, describing what happened and when. Documented the alienation with evidence that was admissible in court.
  • Always call or show up to pick up their children, even if they knew that the children won’t be there. It’s difficult but they could document that they tried, when the alienator alleged that this parent had no interest in the child.
  • Focus on enjoying their children’s company and never talked to their children about their case. Never talked badly about the other parent to their children. Don’t let the children overhear inappropriate conversations on the telephone.
  • Court orders not to be violated and pay the child support on time and prove that they could live within the letter of the law